Questions from Sunday Night
March 4, 2010
These questions were asked on Sunday night but unfortunately, there was not enough time to answer them all. Therefore, we want everyone to feel free to join in and answer the questions. As a biblical, functioning community we must strengthen and encourage each other. All of us can offer diverse, Christ-centered perspectives to help answer these questions. MAKE SURE TO PUT THE NUMBER OF THE QUESTION YOU ARE ANSWERING AT THE BEGINNING OF YOUR COMMENT. If you don’t have the answer, but want to see what others said about these questions then click on comments below this post. So lets get started:
1.) What help does WSF offer to those who need healing from divorce? What about for the children as well? In order to change the perspective of love.
2.) There are times when I feel like my spouse is against me; that they are setting me up or that she does something for herself that unknowingly damages me or the dream I know God has for me. I don’t feel as though I have trust issues but we do have communication issues which cause me to feel even more worried. Also I feel discouraged because I don’t know the plans God has for me anymore. Before marriage I had a clearer picture of what God has for me, but now I just can’t see it. How can both of these things change? What can I do to change the situation or at least change my perspective?
3.) I love my husband but I’m not sure if we are “in love” still. It feels like he doesn’t want me much anymore. We haven’t been married very long so we should still be madly “in love” with each other. We also jumped into marriage pretty fast. Our marriage is a little on the rocks right now. What can I do and how could this be changed?
4.) Do you think that there is only person out there that God has destined for us to marry?
5.) According to Matthew 5:32 if you marry a divorced person you commit adultery, so if you marry a divorced person are you in a continual state of adultery? If the answer is no, then is a person who chooses a homosexual relationship in continual sin?
6.) How do we get people, friends and family to see or understand that we are following God even though they may not believe that we should be together?
7.) What does a biblical marriage look like to you? What are characteristics?
8.) What does it mean if God confirms to you that you are to be married to one partner but not the other?
9.) How do you prepare to have a Godly relationship?
3) First of all, Love is an action more so then a feeling. There have been many times where I did not feel the warn gushy feeling of love towards my wife and I am sure the same can be said for her. I believe that real Christ like love is a decision more so then a feeling. When we are lead around by our feelings and emotions we become very unsettled and unstable people. You really need to open your heart up to the Lord and really seek him. Increase your time with the Lord and fast. Seek after God with your whole heart. If you need to, see a licensed, Christian counselor. Anyone other then a licensed counselor, you risk your confidence not being kept. They have to keep your confidence by law.
7) A Godly marriage first of all has Christ in the center. Your marriage should reflect Christ. Your self worth and image should never come from your spouse. Both of you need to have a relationship with the Lord, and have your own individual times with God outside of church. When you keep your relationship with God on the front burner, the problems you will face will not tear you down. God first, your spouse second, then church. Church activities should never be placed before your marriage. If you need to take things off your plate, then you need to, do whatever you need to in order to keep your marriage in its rightful place. If you are having issues that you need help with see a licensed counselor employed by the church.
9) You prepare for a Godly relationship by seeking Christ and being a true Christ follower. Godly relationships also have boundaries. Before marriage, never go anywhere alone. Always go in groups; never shut the door to a room. Get an accountability partner that can get in your business.